Mommy-Issues

Relationships

With such a big change in a new moms’ life, her relationships are also bound to change. These relationships can be broken into four main categories:

Spouse/Partner: Spousal relationships change dramatically with changing priorities and daily expectations. A reality that all couples have to face is that the mother will have to take on more of the weight when caring for the newborn. Because of physical needs, it will never truly be a 50/50 split. Couples with newborns will also have to inevitably deal with changes in their sex life, understand new quirks in their relationship, and learn new modes of communication.

Friends with Kids: Once a woman gives birth she immediately gets inducted into “the moms club.” Her relationship with friends who have kids changes; with shared experiences, schedules, and expectations, new mothers share a new bond with their friends that have children as well. New mothers also find themselves making new friends based solely on the fact that they have kids around the same age. For some, it’s situational friends while for others, these new friends become an irreplaceable support system.

Friends without Kids: Without a doubt, relationships between a new mom and friends without kids change. The cause of shifts range from being on different paths of life, the fact that scheduling and room for spontaneous activity feels impossible to the shift in priorities and interests can make it hard to relate to friends without kids. In addition, many feel guilty about talking about their baby too often or that they can’t be as present or a good friend because their minds are elsewhere.

Confidant: With a lot of the new moms we spoke to, one of the stand-outs was the fact that many women began to form closer bonds with their own mothers, older sisters who’ve been through it, sisters-in-law, etc. With this shared experience and more vulnerability, their relationship with females in their lives began to shift.

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